A blessing for when you mourn what could have been (and it needs to feel okay to say that) - Kate Bowler

Archbishop Justin Welby: Suspicious of Joy

00:00 00:00
00:00

A blessing for when you mourn what could have been (and it needs to feel okay to say that)

Blessed are you, friend, sitting among the shards of what could have been. It is broken now, that dream you loved, and it has spilled out all over the ground.

Blessed are you, dear one, letting your eyes look around and remember all the hope your dream once contained. All the love. All the beauty.

Blessed are you, telling your tears they can flow. Telling your anger it can speak.

Blessed are you when mourning is the holy work of the moment, for it speaks of what is real.

blessed are you, letting this loss speak all its terrible truth to your soul.

Blessed are we who mourn, saying let us remain in grief’s cold winter for as long as it takes, that mourning might be to our hearts the gentlest springtime.

Subscribe
Notify of
guest
8 Comments
Oldest
Newest Most Voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Jennifer Townsend
Jennifer Townsend
2 months ago

Thank you. It has been almost 2 years since the end of my 25 year marriage. The father of our 2 wonderful kids left me for another woman.
I am still living in the home we shared on a dirt road in northern Vermont, with views of my neighbor’s pond out my kitchen window and the snow covered peak of Mt Mansfield to the East.
I know I need to get this huge, lonesome house on the market and leave but I am still grieving.
Thank you for this blessing of those of us who grieve.

Team Everything Happens
Admin
Team Everything Happens
2 months ago

Oh hon, that is so terribly hard. May you feel a comfort knowing you are not alone. Thank you for being here in this community.

Robin Fillmore
Robin Fillmore
2 months ago

Just the words I needed for today. I am going to share this as the final prayer for the Grief Group that is beginning at my church today. Thank you, Kate, for each beautiful word.

Laurel Smaglik
Laurel Smaglik
2 months ago

I love the wisdom and kindness of your words. I shared this passage with a dear friend grieving the loss of her precious son and it brings so much comfort to us both.Thank you!

Alison Downie
Alison Downie
1 month ago
Reply to  Laurel Smaglik

I lost my son nearly two years ago. These words made my ache seem seen & called up tears Thank you for your evocative, honest, gentle words, Kate. Many of your words remind me of Tibetan prayer flags–vulnerable to the elements, gifts waiting, available to any who may be touched by them. . .

Diana Lennon
Diana Lennon
2 months ago

Brought tears to my eyes.

Judith Johnson
Judith Johnson
2 months ago

It is a relief to have permission to be sad or angry for loss. I do not find that permission many places in our culture. Thank you also for the appreciation of small moments of joy and beauty and humor right in the midst of that grief. Your writings give voice to that over and over.

Jeanne
Jeanne
1 month ago

This prayer so resonates with me. My two 40 something children are not married and do not want children. I have wanted to be a grandma forever. I recognize in the world’s view this is not so important. But when you have a vanished dream of what your life should’ve been, it still is a grief that is with you everyday.

8
0
Would love your thoughts, please comment.x
()
x