Why is it so hard to say the right thing to those going through difficult circumstances? Artist Emily McDowell has been on the receiving end of some terrible responses after her own diagnosis. Now, she creates kind and irreverent greeting cards that teach us all how to be a little more human. She speaks with Kate about the best and worst things to say and do when our loved ones are hurting.

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To learn more about There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Emily McDowell and Dr. Kelsey Crowe, click here.

For more on Emily’s co-author, Dr. Kelsey Crowe and her Empathy Boot Camps, click here.

To learn more about Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I’ve Loved) by Kate Bowler, click here.

Kate identifies three types of responses she’s experienced in her New York Times Op-Ed: Minimizers, Teachers, and Solvers. Read it in its entirety, here.

To take a peek at Emily’s hilariously perfect Empathy Cards, click here.

Here’s a pair of Kate’s favorite motivational socks. 

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The voicemail clips you heard at the end were from actual listeners. We received so many of your heartbreaking and beautiful stories. Thank you. A special thanks to Julie, David, Dee, and Jess for sharing your voices with us on this episode. To lend your voice to a future episode, leave us a voicemail: (978) 842-1817.

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