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      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

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      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

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      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

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      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

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  • Laughing in the Face of Cancer
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    Laughing in the Face of Cancer

    Bykatebowler March 5, 2018August 17, 2023

    Lent has me thinking about the ubiquity of suffering. Sickness is part of the universal human experience, but we try so hard to disengage from it. You would think we all understand that we are all going to die (unless you are Walt Disney, who has probably come the closest to cultural immortality)! But it’s…

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Every week I usually forget most of the basics:
a) you are loved. b) life is absurd. c) it’s hard to be a human.

If you want some smart, kind, and funny encouragement to get you through your week, sign up for my newsletter. I’d love to be your reminder. 

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Believe it or not, we`re hardwired for awe.

To pay Attention to the small things.
To Wonder at beauty.
To stop at Enough. (Pause the constant self-doubt, the hustle, the hurry, and quietly ask, "Is this enough for now?")

And yes, I know it`s really hard to be in awe of something when you`re trying to get kids out the door, prep for a budget meeting, or simply shower and be a human participating in society.

I GET IT.

But here`s the thing, we don`t simply live IN nature. We ARE nature. There`s a certain beauty that comes with trying to fall back in love with the world - even the parts that hiss and bite and make life woefully inconvenient (looking at you, mosquitoes).

If you`re looking for a little help seeing the miracle that is everyday life (right there with you), comment "AWE," and I`ll send you a link to today`s Substack essay.

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Believe it or not, we're hardwired for awe.To pay Attention to the small things.
To Wonder at beauty.
To stop at Enough. (Pause the constant self-doubt, the hustle, the hurry, and quietly ask, "Is this enough for now?")And yes, I know it's really hard to be in awe of something when you're trying to get kids out the door, prep for a budget meeting, or simply shower and be a human participating in society.I GET IT.But here's the thing, we don't simply live IN nature. We ARE nature. There's a certain beauty that comes with trying to fall back in love with the world - even the parts that hiss and bite and make life woefully inconvenient (looking at you, mosquitoes).If you're looking for a little help seeing the miracle that is everyday life (right there with you), comment "AWE," and I'll send you a link to today's Substack essay.

The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.

Welcome to Part One of a series I’m loosely titling, “a purpose-driven life doesn’t always give us the meaning we crave.” We’ll explore “purpose-monsters,” how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life’s actions, decisions, and meaning.

Make sure you’re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

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The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.Welcome to Part One of a series I’m loosely titling, “a purpose-driven life doesn’t always give us the meaning we crave.” We’ll explore “purpose-monsters,” how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life’s actions, decisions, and meaning.Make sure you’re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

SAY IT WITH ME: YOU ARE NOT YOUR TO-DO LIST.

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SAY IT WITH ME: YOU ARE NOT YOUR TO-DO LIST.

Welcome to part ✌️ of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.

Here’s what they don’t tell you when you’re 22 and full of ambition-flavored LaCroix:
Your job doesn’t have to be your calling.

Sometimes it’s just… your job.
(And that’s not failure. That’s rent.)

Make sure you`re following me for part three, and feel free to drop any comments/questions/concerns below.

p.s. If your job IS your calling, that`s wonderful. Seriously. NO shade to you. In fact, that`s so cool.

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Welcome to part ✌️ of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.Here’s what they don’t tell you when you’re 22 and full of ambition-flavored LaCroix:
Your job doesn’t have to be your calling.Sometimes it’s just… your job.
(And that’s not failure. That’s rent.)Make sure you're following me for part three, and feel free to drop any comments/questions/concerns below.p.s. If your job IS your calling, that's wonderful. Seriously. NO shade to you. In fact, that's so cool.

My beloved overachievers: bless you for trying to slow down. For attempting presence. For putting down that book you secretly hate (yes, even if it won a Pulitzer).

Unposted memories still count in a world where Everything Happens.

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My beloved overachievers: bless you for trying to slow down. For attempting presence. For putting down that book you secretly hate (yes, even if it won a Pulitzer).Unposted memories still count in a world where Everything Happens.

The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.

Welcome to Part One of a series I`m loosely titling, "a purpose-driven life doesn`t always give us the meaning we crave." We`ll explore "purpose-monsters," how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life`s actions, decisions, and meaning.

Make sure you`re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

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The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.Welcome to Part One of a series I'm loosely titling, "a purpose-driven life doesn't always give us the meaning we crave." We'll explore "purpose-monsters," how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life's actions, decisions, and meaning.Make sure you're following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

Did I want an excuse to try a new potato chip flavor? Yes, obviously. BUT I really just think some things don`t need to be side-hustled into meaning.

That`s all.

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Did I want an excuse to try a new potato chip flavor? Yes, obviously. BUT I really just think some things don't need to be side-hustled into meaning.That's all.

Here`s what I would say if I were your friend and not afraid of hurting your feelings: "Your life isn`t inherently more meaningful if you`re busy all the time."

Busy DOES NOT equal meaning.

Today’s @substack essay is for anyone stuck somewhere between being present and redoing their to-do list for the third time. A love letter to the overthinkers, the under-nappers, and anyone trying (and failing) to chill. (Also, preaching to myself.)

Comment "🐝" and I`ll send you a link to the essay.

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Here's what I would say if I were your friend and not afraid of hurting your feelings: "Your life isn't inherently more meaningful if you're busy all the time."Busy DOES NOT equal meaning.Today’s @substack essay is for anyone stuck somewhere between being present and redoing their to-do list for the third time. A love letter to the overthinkers, the under-nappers, and anyone trying (and failing) to chill. (Also, preaching to myself.)Comment "🐝" and I'll send you a link to the essay.
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    • Meet Kate

      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

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      Get to Know Me

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    • Everything Happens.

      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

      See All Episodes
      Kate Bowler

      The Summer of Too Much

      Listen Now The Summer of Too Much
      Suleika Jaouad

      Survival Is a Creative Act

      Listen Now Survival Is a Creative Act
      Erin & Ben Napier

      Everyone’s From Somewhere

      Listen Now Everyone’s From Somewhere
      Stacey Heale

      The Aftermath of the Aftermath

      Listen Now The Aftermath of the Aftermath
  • BOOKS
    • Books

      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

      All Books

      Everything Happens for a Reason

      (And Other Lies I’ve Loved)

      Have a Beautiful Terrible Day!

      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

      No Cure for Being Human

      (And Other Truths I Need to Hear)

  • RESOURCES
    • Resources

      Our goal with Everything Happens is to create rich language and vibrant community that sustains us when life comes apart. Below, you’ll find categories that may be good starting points for you. Inside are a mix of podcasts, blessings, support guides, and bonus resources that we hope will be useful.

      ALL RESOURCES

      Types

      BLESSINGS
      DEVOTIONALS
      SUPPORT GUIDES
      COURSES
      FREE DOWNLOADS
      Discussion Guides
      FOR MINISTRY

      Topics

      ILLNESS
      GRIEF
      WHAT NOT TO SAY
      RESILIENT FAITH
      INSPIRING LIVES

      NUANCED HOPE
      CARING AT HOME
      CARING AT WORK
      COMPLICATED FAMILIES
      MOVING FORWARD