support guidE
for
chaplains
Hello,
As leaders of faith you are often called to enter into the holy space of lives coming undone, such as the waiting room, the hospital room, or even the dreaded family rooms. You are so brave to enter into these spaces, realizing you may be the only person who enters into this room who has no agenda, no answers to give, no blood to take, no updates to share. You are the courageous one entering into the chaos bringing only love and compassion. This is the work of a Chaplain.
We are so thankful for the hands you will hold, the prayers you will pray, for the stories you will carry, for the goodbyes you will say. Your calling to sit in this duality of suffering and love is a heavy weight to carry. We have put together a small support guide of resources, language, and encouragement to help you to answer these callings day after day, to enter into those rooms and keep loving those children of God.
Bless you my dear,
Kate
A blessing for when it’s too much to handle
God, our bodies remember the sleepless nights and cold sweats and unrelenting stress.
Show us how to process all that we suffer.
“How frail is humanity!
How short is life, How full of trouble!”
—Job 14:1, NLT
Blessed are we, when we decide to make room for all of it,
the fear and the gratitude, the complexity and the suffering.
Blessed are we who pour out to you the whole of it—
unedited, all the terrible truths and fears and what-ifs.
The gratitude for those beautiful hearts in action who came willingly,
into the strange and awkward space that is my need.
Blessed are we, learning as humans together that pain is inevitable,
nurses are wonderful, hospitals are loud,
people are brave.
And we grow and we hurt and we heal, and then we will do it all over again.
Because this beautiful paradox
is what it means to be human.
Adapted for a communal setting from THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE.
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WATCH
Kate speaks with writer Kelly Corrigan on how to be present even through the hardest moments.
You can listen to their conversation, here.
WATCH
Director Luke Lorentzen’s A Still Small Voice follows Mati, a chaplain completing a year-long hospital residency, as she learns to provide spiritual care to people confronting profound life changes. Through Mati’s experiences with her patients, her struggle with professional burnout, and her own spiritual questioning, we gain new perspectives on how meaningful connection can be and how painful its absence is.
This is the official trailer for this documentary. For more information go to astillsmallvoicefilm.com
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Finding Jesus in the Storm
The Spiritual Lives of Christians with Mental Health Challenges
Disability theologian John Swinton explores the lived experiences and faith journeys of people living with chronic depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and other mental health diagnoses. This book invites the Church to more fully embrace those whose stories both complicate and enrich faith.
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With the End in Mind
Dying, Death & Wisdom in an Age of Denial
Dr. Kathryn Mannix has studied and practiced palliative care for thirty years. In With the End in Mind , she shares beautifully crafted stories from a lifetime of caring for the dying, and makes a compelling case for the therapeutic power of approaching death not with trepidation, but with openness, clarity, and understanding.
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The Body Keeps the Score
Brain, Mind, and Body In the Healing of Trauma
In this best-selling work, Bessel van der Kolk examines the ways that our bodies store and process trauma over time, even across the span of generations. Van der Kolk brings his background as a researcher and psychiatrist into conversation with some of our most troubling contemporary questions regarding trauma-informed care.
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Between Two Kingdoms
A Memoir of Life Interrupted
Cancer-survivor Suleika Jaouad explores her journey between two worlds and examines her own survivorship in the kingdom of the sick. Using the lens of dual citizenship, Jaouad engages her ongoing work to pursue survival, healing, and honesty in the years following cancer treatment.
“It sounds like so much of what we learn from the nature of trauma is [that] it gets down to the question of who are we to one another and how do we manage the pain and the beauty of that interdependence.”
—From Kate’s conversation with Bessel Van Der Kolk, on the episode, Our Bodies Keep The Score, Everything Happens Podcast
LISTEN
Tom Long: Number our Days
Learn how funerals offer ritual care that helps us tell the truth about death and find meaning, even in painful or complicated losses..
LISTEN
Kathryn Mannix: Living with End in Mind
Practical wisdom on facing the end of life, helping people navigate fear, pain, and limited choices with clarity and comfort.
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Alan Alda: Can You Hear Me Now?
Why do we struggle to talk about illness and how can better communication—especially in medicine— lead to deeper understanding and care.
LISTEN
Sunita Puri:
The Uncertainty Specialist
Explore the true meaning of palliative care—how it helps us face serious illness with compassion, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what it means to live and die well.
LISTEN
Sister Helen Prejean:
The Face of Love
Explore how love and presence can transform us as we accompany others—especially the vulnerable—through injustice, drawing on Sister Helen’s powerful journey with a death-row inmate.
LISTEN
Rabbi Steve Leder:
Don’t Come Out Empty-Handed
Explore how we show up in grief—with honesty, compassion, and the courage to tell hard truths.
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CONSIDER THIS
- One of the gifts of a chaplain can be called the “art of presence.” In what ways is presence an art form that you develop and get better at over time?
- Lament is crucial to grief work. Theologians like N.T. Wright have urged faith communities to reclaim lament as a practice. As a chaplain, how do you invite others to grieve honestly? In what ways are you honoring the need for lament?
- How do we create spaces of deeper belonging and friendship in a world without easy answers? How do you work to create spaces of belonging in complex environments like hospitals, rehab communities, or hospice facilities?
