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      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

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      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

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      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

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      Everything Happens for a Reason

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      Have a Beautiful Terrible Day!

      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

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      Our goal with Everything Happens is to create rich language and vibrant community that sustains us when life comes apart. Below, you’ll find categories that may be good starting points for you. Inside are a mix of podcasts, blessings, support guides, and bonus resources that we hope will be useful.

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      FOR MINISTRY

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The Secret to Praying During Horrible Times
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The Secret to Praying During Horrible Times

Bykatebowler October 9, 2017August 17, 2023

How are we supposed to pray when our souls have been pummeled by tragedy? When I am at the end of my strength, I go back to the beginning.

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Every week I usually forget most of the basics:
a) you are loved. b) life is absurd. c) it’s hard to be a human.

If you want some smart, kind, and funny encouragement to get you through your week, sign up for my newsletter. I’d love to be your reminder. 
 

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TGI(almost)F AM I RIGHT?!

Which medium sad gnome are you?

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TGI(almost)F AM I RIGHT?!Which medium sad gnome are you?

It’s just June.

I may or may not have responded to a work email with “Love you!”

You’re doing great. ✨

Drop an emoji for how your brain feels right now. Please and thank you.

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It’s just June.I may or may not have responded to a work email with “Love you!”You’re doing great. ✨Drop an emoji for how your brain feels right now. Please and thank you.

The world feels shaky, like it might tip over. But here are some recent saves full of reminders to be brave, create (literally anything), and take small stabs at hope—because even now, fear and creativity can ride tandem, and trying still counts.

1. @prest.works/@jonacuff
2. @iuliastration
3. @lobsterandpearls/@backtomotherpearl
4. @poetryrise
5. @tinypricksproject and @kellycorrigan
6. @mytherapistsays

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The world feels shaky, like it might tip over. But here are some recent saves full of reminders to be brave, create (literally anything), and take small stabs at hope—because even now, fear and creativity can ride tandem, and trying still counts.1. @prest.works/@jonacuff 2. @iuliastration 3. @lobsterandpearls/@backtomotherpearl 4. @poetryrise 5. @tinypricksproject and @kellycorrigan 6. @mytherapistsays

If you do only one thing today, dig the hole.

(Metaphorically speaking, of course…unless diminishing your property value is what makes you happy.)

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If you do only one thing today, dig the hole.(Metaphorically speaking, of course…unless diminishing your property value is what makes you happy.)

In a world where Everything Happens...

Blessed are you who make things: the doodlers, the thinkers, the “I-have-an-idea-at-2am” scribblers. The ones who bring beauty and chaos and weirdly specific playlists into the world.

May you have the courage to keep creating even when the algorithm ignores you, your inner critic is loud, and your desire to quit feels stronger than your desire to make.

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In a world where Everything Happens...Blessed are you who make things: the doodlers, the thinkers, the “I-have-an-idea-at-2am” scribblers. The ones who bring beauty and chaos and weirdly specific playlists into the world.May you have the courage to keep creating even when the algorithm ignores you, your inner critic is loud, and your desire to quit feels stronger than your desire to make.

It`s been a heavy week, and part of this work is constantly holding tension between what is beautiful and terrible.

This carousel is for those who want to understand how harmful ideologies take root, not to despair, but to become people who live differently.

Who nurture what is good.
Who protect what is sacred.
Who love their neighbors on purpose.

Because when the world feels tilted towards control, educating ourselves allows us to be more compassionate in a world that so desperately needs it.

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It's been a heavy week, and part of this work is constantly holding tension between what is beautiful and terrible.This carousel is for those who want to understand how harmful ideologies take root, not to despair, but to become people who live differently.Who nurture what is good. Who protect what is sacred. Who love their neighbors on purpose.Because when the world feels tilted towards control, educating ourselves allows us to be more compassionate in a world that so desperately needs it.

I said what I said about iced coffee. ☕️🧊

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I said what I said about iced coffee. ☕️🧊

Ok, I completely recognize that not all love stories (ok most) are like Edward and Bella BUT I have to know, do you believe in soulmates???

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Ok, I completely recognize that not all love stories (ok most) are like Edward and Bella BUT I have to know, do you believe in soulmates???

 

If you are reading this you have great eyesight. But also, thanks for being a person with me. The world is strange and hard for soft-hearted humans, but I think you’re a delight.

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  • ABOUT

    • Meet Kate

      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

      ABOUT KATE

      Get to Know Me

      HUMAN
      AUTHOR
      PODCAST HOST
      SPEAKER

      How to Connect

      NEWSLETTER
      BOOKING
      EVENTS
      CONTACT
      PRESS
      Kate Bowler sitting in front of books

  • PODCAST

    • Everything Happens.

      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

      See All Episodes
      Suleika Jaouad

      Survival Is a Creative Act

      Listen Now Survival Is a Creative Act
      Erin & Ben Napier

      Everyone’s From Somewhere

      Listen Now Everyone’s From Somewhere
      Stacey Heale

      The Aftermath of the Aftermath

      Listen Now The Aftermath of the Aftermath
      Kimberly Williams-Paisley

      Where The Light (Still) Gets In

      Listen Now Where The Light (Still) Gets In
  • BOOKS

    • Books

      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

      All Books

      Everything Happens for a Reason

      (And Other Lies I’ve Loved)

      Have a Beautiful Terrible Day!

      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

      No Cure for Being Human

      (And Other Truths I Need to Hear)

  • RESOURCES

    • Resources

      Our goal with Everything Happens is to create rich language and vibrant community that sustains us when life comes apart. Below, you’ll find categories that may be good starting points for you. Inside are a mix of podcasts, blessings, support guides, and bonus resources that we hope will be useful.

      ALL RESOURCES

      Types

      BLESSINGS
      DEVOTIONALS
      SUPPORT GUIDES
      COURSES
      FREE DOWNLOADS
      Discussion Guides
      FOR MINISTRY

      Topics

      ILLNESS
      GRIEF
      WHAT NOT TO SAY
      RESILIENT FAITH
      INSPIRING LIVES

      NUANCED HOPE
      CARING AT HOME
      CARING AT WORK
      COMPLICATED FAMILIES
      MOVING FORWARD