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      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

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      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

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      The Summer of Too Much

      Listen Now The Summer of Too Much
      Suleika Jaouad

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      Erin & Ben Napier

      Everyone’s From Somewhere

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      Stacey Heale

      The Aftermath of the Aftermath

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      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

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      Everything Happens for a Reason

      (And Other Lies I’ve Loved)

      Have a Beautiful Terrible Day!

      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

      No Cure for Being Human

      (And Other Truths I Need to Hear)

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      Our goal with Everything Happens is to create rich language and vibrant community that sustains us when life comes apart. Below, you’ll find categories that may be good starting points for you. Inside are a mix of podcasts, blessings, support guides, and bonus resources that we hope will be useful.

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      MOVING FORWARD

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  • God is on the Losing Team
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    God is on the Losing Team

    Bykatebowler February 25, 2020August 17, 2023

    When I was five, I played the cello for the first time in a music festival. Music festival is a strong word for the experience I had. Yes, there were lots of players and pieces and judges and carrying music stands on and off stages. But as far as I was concerned, there were only…

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  • Living Into Easter Joy
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    Living Into Easter Joy

    Bykatebowler April 23, 2019December 15, 2023

    Easter isn’t just one day—it is an entire season. The next fifty days celebrate Jesus’ victory over Sin and Death—which is even longer than Lent. It’s a reversal that resounds through all time and eternity, but can we party that long? You may have experienced that Easter joy again this year, where the truth of…

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  • The Harrowing of Hell
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    The Harrowing of Hell

    Bykatebowler April 16, 2019August 17, 2023

    And so here we are: this is Holy Week, the final days of Lent. It is a time jam-packed with emotional lows and highs, powerful theology and moving services such as the foot washing of Maundy Thursday, the darkness of Tenebrae, and the vigils of Saturday night. Or maybe you are braving the Good Friday…

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  • Rejoicing in the Midst of Sorrow
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    Rejoicing in the Midst of Sorrow

    Bykatebowler April 3, 2019August 17, 2023

    If you attend a church that observes the liturgical calendar, this weekend you may have noticed the sanctuary decorated with flowers, clergy clad in pink vestments, and the organist may have been allowed her chance at that instrumental solo she has been longing to launch into. But why? Aren’t we observing Lent—a season for the…

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  • Is Asking the Antidote We Need?
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    Is Asking the Antidote We Need?

    Bykatebowler March 26, 2019August 17, 2023

    As children most of us wrote to Santa Claus to ask for particular Christmas gifts. I’m not sure all of us asked our parents for the Jem doll, a 1980s version of Barbie except that her neck was extra thick to accommodate the double A batteries that made her ears light up. But we all…

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  • A Season of Stubborn Hope
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    A Season of Stubborn Hope

    Bykatebowler March 20, 2019August 17, 2023

    We feel our smallness when we consider the universe, unutterably vast, dark, and scattered. Whole swaths of space are empty while elsewhere galaxies drift through the void for eons of time before colliding with each other. Some stars go nova and incinerate the planets orbiting them, expending themselves in an explosion so powerful that our…

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  • Kate at Easter
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    How Lent Prepares Us for What is Lost

    Bykatebowler March 12, 2019August 17, 2023

    When I was a little girl, my parents would bribe me with a dollar for every poem I memorized. It is disconcerting to see a child recite some of the sexier parts of Romeo and Juliet, but, what can I say, that was my idea of rebellion. My father, the history professor, was big on…

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  • Pancakes, Fat Tuesday, and Cheering for the Losing Team
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    Pancakes, Fat Tuesday, and Cheering for the Losing Team

    Bykatebowler March 5, 2019August 17, 2023

    [Listen to a recording of today’s article by clicking play below.] It’s a day with a lot of names—Shrove Tuesday, Mardi Gras, Fat Tuesday, Fastnacht—but around our house it was always Pancake Day. Though the Bowler girls were not brought up to be great observers of the church calendar, we always knew when it was…

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  • Laughing in the Face of Cancer
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    Laughing in the Face of Cancer

    Bykatebowler March 5, 2018August 17, 2023

    Lent has me thinking about the ubiquity of suffering. Sickness is part of the universal human experience, but we try so hard to disengage from it. You would think we all understand that we are all going to die (unless you are Walt Disney, who has probably come the closest to cultural immortality)! But it’s…

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  • How to Be a Better Ash Wednesday Lover
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    How to Be a Better Ash Wednesday Lover

    Bykatebowler February 12, 2018August 17, 2023

    This week marks the beginning of Lent, the forty days in the Christian liturgical calendar leading to the commemoration of Jesus’ crucifixion (Good Friday) and resurrection (Easter). For many Christians, it’s a time to temporarily abandon vices, try new spiritual practices, or give up Chik-fil-a milkshakes (Lent conveniently corresponds with Spring Break beach vacation season)….

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Every week I usually forget most of the basics:
a) you are loved. b) life is absurd. c) it’s hard to be a human.

If you want some smart, kind, and funny encouragement to get you through your week, sign up for my newsletter. I’d love to be your reminder. 

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Welcome to part three of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.

Today`s myth? Your life only counts if it’s capital-I Important.

What if meaning isn’t in the mountaintop moments—but in the sandwich you made, the email you answered, the backyard hole you dug because… it just felt right?

It doesn’t have to be impressive to be sacred.
(It just has to be yours.)

Follow for more cultural myth-ruining and gentle truth-telling. We’re just getting started.

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Welcome to part three of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.Today's myth? Your life only counts if it’s capital-I Important.What if meaning isn’t in the mountaintop moments—but in the sandwich you made, the email you answered, the backyard hole you dug because… it just felt right?It doesn’t have to be impressive to be sacred.
(It just has to be yours.)Follow for more cultural myth-ruining and gentle truth-telling. We’re just getting started.

Believe it or not, we`re hardwired for awe.

To pay Attention to the small things.
To Wonder at beauty.
To stop at Enough. (Pause the constant self-doubt, the hustle, the hurry, and quietly ask, "Is this enough for now?")

And yes, I know it`s really hard to be in awe of something when you`re trying to get kids out the door, prep for a budget meeting, or simply shower and be a human participating in society.

I GET IT.

But here`s the thing, we don`t simply live IN nature. We ARE nature. There`s a certain beauty that comes with trying to fall back in love with the world - even the parts that hiss and bite and make life woefully inconvenient (looking at you, mosquitoes).

If you`re looking for a little help seeing the miracle that is everyday life (right there with you), comment "AWE," and I`ll send you a link to today`s Substack essay.

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Believe it or not, we're hardwired for awe.To pay Attention to the small things.
To Wonder at beauty.
To stop at Enough. (Pause the constant self-doubt, the hustle, the hurry, and quietly ask, "Is this enough for now?")And yes, I know it's really hard to be in awe of something when you're trying to get kids out the door, prep for a budget meeting, or simply shower and be a human participating in society.I GET IT.But here's the thing, we don't simply live IN nature. We ARE nature. There's a certain beauty that comes with trying to fall back in love with the world - even the parts that hiss and bite and make life woefully inconvenient (looking at you, mosquitoes).If you're looking for a little help seeing the miracle that is everyday life (right there with you), comment "AWE," and I'll send you a link to today's Substack essay.

The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.

Welcome to Part One of a series I’m loosely titling, “a purpose-driven life doesn’t always give us the meaning we crave.” We’ll explore “purpose-monsters,” how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life’s actions, decisions, and meaning.

Make sure you’re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

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The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.Welcome to Part One of a series I’m loosely titling, “a purpose-driven life doesn’t always give us the meaning we crave.” We’ll explore “purpose-monsters,” how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life’s actions, decisions, and meaning.Make sure you’re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

SAY IT WITH ME: YOU ARE NOT YOUR TO-DO LIST.

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SAY IT WITH ME: YOU ARE NOT YOUR TO-DO LIST.

Welcome to part ✌️ of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.

Here’s what they don’t tell you when you’re 22 and full of ambition-flavored LaCroix:
Your job doesn’t have to be your calling.

Sometimes it’s just… your job.
(And that’s not failure. That’s rent.)

Make sure you`re following me for part three, and feel free to drop any comments/questions/concerns below.

p.s. If your job IS your calling, that`s wonderful. Seriously. NO shade to you. In fact, that`s so cool.

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Welcome to part ✌️ of myth-busting a "purpose-driven" life.Here’s what they don’t tell you when you’re 22 and full of ambition-flavored LaCroix:
Your job doesn’t have to be your calling.Sometimes it’s just… your job.
(And that’s not failure. That’s rent.)Make sure you're following me for part three, and feel free to drop any comments/questions/concerns below.p.s. If your job IS your calling, that's wonderful. Seriously. NO shade to you. In fact, that's so cool.

My beloved overachievers: bless you for trying to slow down. For attempting presence. For putting down that book you secretly hate (yes, even if it won a Pulitzer).

Unposted memories still count in a world where Everything Happens.

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My beloved overachievers: bless you for trying to slow down. For attempting presence. For putting down that book you secretly hate (yes, even if it won a Pulitzer).Unposted memories still count in a world where Everything Happens.

The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.

Welcome to Part One of a series I`m loosely titling, "a purpose-driven life doesn`t always give us the meaning we crave." We`ll explore "purpose-monsters," how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life`s actions, decisions, and meaning.

Make sure you`re following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

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The summer I tried to poke holes in the idea of the purpose-driven life.Welcome to Part One of a series I'm loosely titling, "a purpose-driven life doesn't always give us the meaning we crave." We'll explore "purpose-monsters," how we got here, and what we can do instead to ease the pressure of finding the ONE THING that is supposed to guide our life's actions, decisions, and meaning.Make sure you're following for Part ✌️ and drop any questions/comments/concerns you have below!

Did I want an excuse to try a new potato chip flavor? Yes, obviously. BUT I really just think some things don`t need to be side-hustled into meaning.

That`s all.

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Did I want an excuse to try a new potato chip flavor? Yes, obviously. BUT I really just think some things don't need to be side-hustled into meaning.That's all.

 

If you are reading this you have great eyesight. But also, thanks for being a person with me. The world is strange and hard for soft-hearted humans, but I think you’re a delight.

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    • Meet Kate

      Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

      ABOUT KATE

      Get to Know Me

      HUMAN
      AUTHOR
      PODCAST HOST
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      How to Connect

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      CONTACT
      PRESS
      Kate Bowler sitting in front of books

  • PODCAST
    • Everything Happens.

      Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens. 

      See All Episodes
      Kate Bowler

      The Summer of Too Much

      Listen Now The Summer of Too Much
      Suleika Jaouad

      Survival Is a Creative Act

      Listen Now Survival Is a Creative Act
      Erin & Ben Napier

      Everyone’s From Somewhere

      Listen Now Everyone’s From Somewhere
      Stacey Heale

      The Aftermath of the Aftermath

      Listen Now The Aftermath of the Aftermath
  • BOOKS
    • Books

      Let’s untangle our culture’s obsession with toxic positivity and self-help, shall we? Kate studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of seven books including three instant New York Times bestsellers.

      All Books

      Everything Happens for a Reason

      (And Other Lies I’ve Loved)

      Have a Beautiful Terrible Day!

      Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs & In-Betweens

      No Cure for Being Human

      (And Other Truths I Need to Hear)

  • RESOURCES
    • Resources

      Our goal with Everything Happens is to create rich language and vibrant community that sustains us when life comes apart. Below, you’ll find categories that may be good starting points for you. Inside are a mix of podcasts, blessings, support guides, and bonus resources that we hope will be useful.

      ALL RESOURCES

      Types

      BLESSINGS
      DEVOTIONALS
      SUPPORT GUIDES
      COURSES
      FREE DOWNLOADS
      Discussion Guides
      FOR MINISTRY

      Topics

      ILLNESS
      GRIEF
      WHAT NOT TO SAY
      RESILIENT FAITH
      INSPIRING LIVES

      NUANCED HOPE
      CARING AT HOME
      CARING AT WORK
      COMPLICATED FAMILIES
      MOVING FORWARD