Blessed are you standing among the ruins of a faith that once felt so sturdy,now turned to dust under your feet. The certainty you once had, gone. The community you loved, dissipated.The hope you held dear, hard to find. Instead, what’s taken up residence is the very stuff that seems counter to what you imagined:Disappointment. Doubt. Disillusionment. Despair. In […]
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A blessing for when you’re different now
Blessed are you, dear one, when the world around you has changed. Everything is different now,your body, your age, your relationships, your job, your faith. The things that once brought you joy.The way you existed in the world.The people you love and trust and rely on. Things have changed and it would be silly to […]
A blessing for when you wake up tired (again, today)
God, it’s morning and I’m already tired. This is the kind of tiredness that muffles promise in a day,cluttering it with the messes of the pastand the unfilled hopes of the future. Blessed are we who say,God, I know that there is goodness and love and beauty somewhere.It calls, but from beyond my reach. God, […]
A blessing for everyday empathy (because, hey, SENSITIVITY ISN’T A BAD THING)
Blessed are you, the sensitive one, attuned to the feelings of others.You couldn’t turn it off if you tried. Blessed are you with the emotional bandwidth to hear hard things,without fixing or minimizing or deflecting,You know the gift of presence. Blessed are you who chooses to show up without judgmentwith little gifts or small acts […]
A Blessing for When the Road is Long
God, I could not have imaginedthat this road could beso long, so hard, so daunting. Here I am, worn out—body and soul. Blessed are we, the wearywho must set aside what we are carrying,and begin to feel only the weight of our own being.It is enough for now. Let our shoulders sink from around our […]
A Blessing For the Start of a New School Year
The year is tilting toward the start of school again, but truth be told, we’re not ready. We’re still hanging on to summer, to the promise it held for long-awaited connections and celebrations, for refreshment for our bodies and souls in water and sky and color and sunlight, and all those little moments given to […]
A blessing for when it’s not fair
The last time anyone let me say it– tears in my eyes, straight from the heart –I was a child. Didn’t anyone tell you?Life isn’t fair. So I swallow it up. But God, without hearing you say it –“My love, this isn’t fair” –I am heartsick. I ate this sadness and it became embarrassment;I ate […]
A blessing for if you happen to be having an ordinary day
Lord, here I am. How strange it is, that some days feel like hurricanesand others like glassy seasand others like nothing much at all. Today is a cosmic shrug. My day planner says,rather conveniently,that I will not need you,cry for you, reach for you. Ordinarily, I might not think of you at all. Except, if […]
A blessing for learning to Delight again
(maybe today could be more than bearable. It could be beautiful.) Blessed are you, the pragmatic,You who have run the math and know what adds up—and what doesn’t.You who have set it all down.You who don’t hope or dream or plan anymore,…because what’s the point? Your world has shrunk.Pain or grief or fear has sucked […]
A blessing for being someone’s person (here or gone, we love you)
Blessed are the noticers. The ones who see the story in its fullness. Blessed are the attend-ers. The witness-bearers. The story-holders. The ones who tiptoe to the edge right alongside us, knowing that the very act will break their heart in pieces too. Blessed are those who are amazed by a life lived in its […]
A blessing for when you might not be kind today
God, I can’t tell which person I will be today: kind and loving, turn-the-other-cheek and I’ll-be-right-here, soft but strong. I will keep no record of wrongs. I might be someone else entirely: brittle and judgmental, I’m-taking-my-share and you-deal-with-it-alone, hard but weak. I will keep every record, dammit. I am an accountant in this world that does […]
A Blessing for the Courage to Try
Blessed are you, faced with the impossible. You who do not take your eyes away from what threatens to swallow you whole. You who stare down reality, though your heart quickens. You for whom action comes swiftly, as you chart the next step or bulldoze a new path yourself. You know how to turn hope […]
a blessing for telling the truth (No matter how bitter or sweet)
Blessed are you, resisting the urge to reframe. You who are sick and tired of silver linings. Blessed are you, speaking honestly about what is right in front of you: This is hard. Things might not get better. This really has gone horribly. There may not be a different way. You who risk honesty, especially when the world around us […]
a blessing for the kind of love that costs something
Love can break your heart. (I think it’s probably in the fine print.) Blessed are you, whose ability to love crosses differences and divides that would keep others apart. Whose love advocates for weakness and fragility. Soft heartedness and “Are you okay?” You who know that this kind of life-expanding love will cost you something, maybe […]
A blessing for when we lose ourselves in other people’s problems
God, I am a shapeshifter.Hidden in plain sight.A great disappearing act. Every now and again,when I am spinning in a tornadoof other people’s needs and wants,I worry that if I stepped out of itto stand dumbfounded for a moment,my body would cast no shadow. God, I vanish.The unnecessary pain and necessary needsof others feels durable. […]
A Blessing for When Today Already Feels Like Too Much
I was hoping to be the kind of person by nowwho doesn’t tumble, headlong, into the dayfalling, falling, fallingfrom the high boardwithout nearly enough water below. God, I swear I didn’t plan it like this.But here I am, hoping for another miracle. Lord, bless these dumb plansthat will short circuit my thinkingand make me fragile, […]
A Blessing for When You’re Running on Fumes
Sometimes I am paperthinning at every touch. Responsibilities and duties and errandsare wearing me down.There is not enough time or energyor finances or imagination. I hardly recognize myself. I can’t keep going, but I can’t rest.God, can You help me slow down? I just need a little shelter and a long breath. Give me space […]
A Blessing for Collective Grief (when thoughts and prayers are not enough)
This world. Impossible. Unthinkable. We are brought to our knees. God, today, there is no true north.And when I last checked, the sun did not rise at all. Today, the innocent still suffer,teachers still risk their lives,families still grieve. A world has ended without any reasonable fanfare. And we are sold the fantasy that nothing can be done. Help us to know […]
A Blessing For If You Are In Pain
Blessed are you on this pain-filled day.When getting out of bed deserves an award.When you can’t remember what it feels likenot to be so aware of your own body.When you arrange your weeks around limitations or side effects. Or when you stop telling the truth altogether about how badly it hurts,how scared you are of […]
A Blessing for an Ordinary Day (because something terrible is not happening for once)
Lord, here I am. How strange it is, that some days feel like hurricanesand others like glassy seasand others like nothing much at all. Today is a cosmic shrug. My day planner says,rather conveniently,that I will not need you,cry for you, reach for you. Ordinarily, I might not think of you at all. Except, if […]
A Blessing for when you need to put one foot in front of the other
Oh God,the thought of trying for a new and improved me makes me tired.I am barely getting anywhere,so draw me closer to a different vision,one that sees that I don’t need perfection— I need love. Free me from the expectation that life should always be better.The everyday stressors—the bills, the pressure, the dependents,the existential fears […]
A Blessing for When Your Family Disappoints You
God, the very people who are supposed tolove me and know me best have let me down. I don’t know if I’ll be able to find a way forward. I’m losing my sense of homeand the reality of it fills me with a kind of fear.However big, however small,this pain feels unforgivable. I know they’re […]
A Blessing to Take What You Need
The feeder is empty againand no one is claiming that the birds are greedyfor taking what they pleased. Look at how the fat, pink flowersare weighing the end of each branch,sucking nutrients into each velvet petal.How selfish. Nature hungers, takes and needs.God, why can’t I? Blessed are we, learning to take what we need.Sleeping past […]
A Blessing for Easter Sunday
An Easter blessing It is an astonishing thing to behold:That a seed falls, and entombed there in the damp earthit swells and cracks open, unfolding to reveala tender root searching downward,a bright shoot rising upward toward the light,becoming this material wonder we call a plant. Just so, the physical body of Jesus was entombed, hidden […]
A Blessing for Palm Sunday
They ran eagerly, spreading their cloaks on the road as Jesus came, waving palm branches and shouting “Hosanna! Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord.” This surely would signal the beginning of their deliverance, and the ending of their oppression, sorrow, and shame. What’s this? No mighty horse or chariot? Only […]
A Blessing for the Body
Blessed is the body that offers soft hugs on hard days. Whose curves fit our pets and our kids and our partners. Whose hands hold another alongside hospital beds and in nursing homes and at the altar and on the first day of school. Whose breasts nurse and legs run to chase littles and whose […]
A blessing for when you don’t feel #blessed
blessed are we who we lose sleep over what troubles us.whose worries keep us watching the clock tick by.who have no energy to do anything but fret.the kingdom of God is here and now. blessed are we drowning in grief.when wave after wave after wave crashes over us.who start to feel okay, then something reminds […]
A prayer for when you feel invisible
Dear God, I always feel like the last one picked. The left out, the unclaimed. It’s hard to miss. My gifts are not welcome. My tears are not seen. My pain is not registered. I feel invisible. Jesus, when You walked among us, You became the one rejected. You were abandoned—even betrayed—by Your best friends, […]
A blessing for when you mourn what could have been (and it needs to feel okay to say that)
Blessed are you, friend, sitting among the shards of what could have been. It is broken now, that dream you loved, and it has spilled out all over the ground. Blessed are you, dear one, letting your eyes look around and remember all the hope your dream once contained. All the love. All the beauty. […]
A Blessing as Lent Begins
Blessed are you, ready to open yourself to a new joy, a doorway that until now has been hidden. In this culture of acquisition and gain, blessed are you who desire fresh ears to hear what might be a bit too loud. Who take the next step to turn it down a notch and make […]
A blessing for Ukraine
God, the unthinkable has happened. Swiftly, relentlessly,by stealth and through open destruction,the peace and beauty of the ordinary,has been shattered in a day. O God of justice and might,We call to you to come and bring this suffering to an end.Comfort these trembling hearts.Shield the vulnerable.Strengthen those with the resources and the resolveto protect what […]
a blessing for when we need to feel good enough
A blessing for when we need to feel good enough (from the appropriately titled book, “Good Enough”). Now available wherever books are sold. Blessed are you, dear heart, when you feel it again. You had a moment there that felt perfect and certain and complete. Like you could taste the enoughness and satisfaction. And you […]
a Valentine blessing (when it’s complicated)
Maybe this year, love is especially complicated.And the hearts and flowers are but a strange reminder of what isn’t working, what isn’t here. Or maybe you are alone, and have been for so longthat romantic gestures are in a languageonly others speak. If that is so, then this blessing is for you: Dear heart, I don’t […]
A Blessing for The In-Between
blessed are we, somewhere unnameable, fully present to our reality. tracking it, with all its subtle gradations and colors and contrasts, the sweetness and the struggle, the stuck and not-quite-fitting. authentic to it, mapping the full strangeness of the new emergent landscape. blessed are we, dear ones, not calling it too soon. not settling for […]
A Blessing for Loving What Is (instead of what could have been…)
Blessed are you who are attempting to love what is here, what is now. You who recognize the wonder and pain looking at life’s rearview mirror, at those things that are gone. The person you were. The quickness and sharpness of a body that didn’t tire as quickly. The relationships and jobs and aspirations. The […]